Blindspot Busters

Changing the world through LOVE, LAUGHTER and a lot a bit of ACTIVISM

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Nikki Jayne is sharing her journey through burnout recovery. All the ups and downs, in almost real time. As honestly as possible. With a splattering of black humour thrown in – we could all use a good laugh. So strap in, buckle up, get ready. We will be going for a ride – slowly – one blog post at a time.

Category: LOVE – Wellbeing

  • What is coercive control?

    So I am currently sitting in Mt Roskill library, it was bucketing down when I walked here so I am drenched. I am here to use the wifi as the place I am staying has none. I am staying with very lovely people. I am grateful Sweetheart has such a large, caring family and that…

  • What are healthy boundaries? And how the hell do you reinforce them?

    In the wee hours of this morning I was kicked out of my flat again. Essentially, my flatmate decided he didn’t want to respect my boundaries anymore. He believed he was entitled to anything of mine whenever he wanted. I left before I found out whether this also meant he felt entitled to my body.…

  • What are my New Years Resolutions? Following Matariki

    So it has been a bit of a dramatic couple of weeks for me. I have lost two phones now and my laptop charging cable whilst being flustered. Being in Kaiti (one of the most poverty deprived areas of the country) does not help, as your things are less likely to come back to you…

  • What makes a real BFF?

    So I have found myself this week asking a few people how they define ‘best friends’. Like what do you have to do to achieve a ‘best’ before the friends label? Really what follows is a love letter to all my best friends. I am incredibly fortunate. I have more than a few. Those that…

  • How did I find faith in the universe?

    This is the final post on Te Whare Tapa Wha for now. It deals with the aspects of Wairua. An indigenous person will need to explain the true meaning of the word. I am simply reflecting here on what it means to me, and how it has helped me in my rebuild. After my Dad…

  • How do I maintain mental stability? What is stability anyway?

    The next section of Te Whare Tapa Wha focuses on Mental and emotional wellbeing. This is a big one. I had a friend read aloud a daily reading the other day that while you are in recovery you need to stay focused on the positive. Having a positive mindset is a necessity, but boy have…

  • My Body is My Temple – How do I look after myself?

    Regardless of persuasion when it comes to philosophical thinking, I know that my body is the only one I have in this earth and if I look after it then I can have many more adventures. This means I need to take care of myself. No one else is going to do that for me.…

  • How do I find my people?

    By early last year my fear based nervous system had been driving the car for so long I did not know who safe people were. Rebuilding that, the trust in myself that I knew who safe people were has been one of the longest and hardest learnings I have had to undertake. I am eternally…

  • What does home look like?

    So we are looking at Te Whare Tapa Wha at the moment. This post will focus specifically on Whenua – land / roots – part. Essentially this is building the foundations. Some people are lucky and this aspect of their lives is particularly strong, they don’t have many questions about it. To these people I…

  • What the hell is burnout recovery?

    In the previous post I explained who I was and that I burnt out. In the next few posts we are going to focus on where I am at. In burn out recovery. The details of the car crash will come later. Right now, I am focused on establishing a new baseline for myself –…